Misi aku hari ini nak sediakan anger chart aku bagi tahun 2009. Sudah sangat berkobar-kobar nak memulakan misi ini. This is because my mission for the year of 2009 is to reduce my anger or kalau paling best boleh capai up to zero anger. Tapi lately or to be exact sebulan kebelakangan ni anger management aku memang at the lowest level so mcm manalah nak capai mission kalau awal2 tahun dan teruk macam ni. The purpose of the chart is for me to plot or to log in the anger data every time aku marah. Jadi aku leh analys dalam masa sehari berapa kali aku marah and apa puncanya and also aku kena come out with solution cthnya kalau marah because of sebab ni apa aku boleh buat or how do i resolve this. I also need to jot down the reason kenapa kemarahan itu terjadi. So chart ni perlu untuk bantu aku mengkaji kadar kemarahan aku dalam masa sebulan. Don’t you think this is kewl...heeh heeh...good effort la mama. I’m trying to kill two birds with one stone. Btw I've printed the calendar already. See how serious I am about this anger management thing.
Kenapa aku rasa chart ni perlu kerana kesian kat anak-anak yang asyik kena marah tak tentu pasal sometimes untuk perkara2 kecil sekali pun oh that’s sound too bad kan. Mama is stress lah dear with hectic day so please give your cooperation to mama ok. Yup I’m a bad mama because I just can only marah to anak-anak but I cannot marah hunny bunny…well u know isteri is tetap isterikan no matter what have to respect and hormat lah cik hubby. And then as usual lepas marah tu aku akan rasa bersalah yang amat (this is such a normal feeling bagi ibu2 di luar sana, am I right all dearest mama di luar sana). Well aku tak nak thing go that way, aku nak sebelum aku marah aku bleh respond dengan cepat supaya my next action is to channel kemarahan kepada benda yang lebih positive and the end result is anak2 tak kena marah and we will have a good feeling. We will see how this thing is going to work ok.
Btw hello dearest frens mcm mana korang manage your anger yek. If you don’t mind kindly share it with me please. Thank you
Till then
Kenapa aku rasa chart ni perlu kerana kesian kat anak-anak yang asyik kena marah tak tentu pasal sometimes untuk perkara2 kecil sekali pun oh that’s sound too bad kan. Mama is stress lah dear with hectic day so please give your cooperation to mama ok. Yup I’m a bad mama because I just can only marah to anak-anak but I cannot marah hunny bunny…well u know isteri is tetap isterikan no matter what have to respect and hormat lah cik hubby. And then as usual lepas marah tu aku akan rasa bersalah yang amat (this is such a normal feeling bagi ibu2 di luar sana, am I right all dearest mama di luar sana). Well aku tak nak thing go that way, aku nak sebelum aku marah aku bleh respond dengan cepat supaya my next action is to channel kemarahan kepada benda yang lebih positive and the end result is anak2 tak kena marah and we will have a good feeling. We will see how this thing is going to work ok.
Btw hello dearest frens mcm mana korang manage your anger yek. If you don’t mind kindly share it with me please. Thank you
Till then
2 comments:
Salam kalau kerja kita very stressful:
lunch time min pegi gym do exercise,walk on treadmill,punch bag,cycle. take rinse and back to work. that if your office dekat dgn gym. kalau takde look for the nearest park walk abt 45 mins is suffice; tapi jgn lak pegi tgh kul 12 tepat panas gila... pegi lewat sikit. but best of all gym u can regulate sikit.#
3x seminggu during lunch hour.
try that. give a while as it will take time for the stamina to build. in the mean time masa focus tu kat treadmill try to stretch and challenge to do more lama lama we can focus n have ability to control to the limit..
mas tu we can cope with our tension level coz our lungs capacity slowly build /enlarge n more oxygent flow n pump to our head..
most ppl with stressful job spend their time at gym to sweat n release tension build up.all the city executive..
also cuba evening primrose oil. itu amatlah bagus utk kita perempuan. bagus kalau start awaldari sekarang. it helps with our hormone..naturally.
the other thing never give mixed signals to the kids.today ok next month tak ok. always reason out la..tell that you are unhappy..bla bla..
train le mereka not to make a mess or too noisy-why-headacheexplain cause n effect.
starpoint don't overmarkup the price but reasonable level.
unless terlalu tak dengar kata u knowlah apa nak buat.
dah sudah dapat hadiah tu explain kenapa dapat hadiah(marah)in a simple n logical ways...
DONT WORRY as once your kid grew up n mature; they will see n understand why.
i did that too. my mum wasnt that a happy wife/mom/worker .
Anak2 kena dpt habuan. now i looked back i just forgive her infact i doa kan dia supaya dia gembira di hari tua dia. masalah menjadi ibu dgn masalah dgn laki, dgn keja dan kmdn tak makan gaji etc.org laki cakap /lepas diri sendiri.maka emaklah seada adanya mengadap masalah dirumah, anak2 hidup dia, masalah laki dia etc.
if u hv done the best n circumstances isn't right for you then, but it was never yr intention pls dont feel guilty.
The kids will know n slowly understand.
takes time but persistant in gettg them to understand why the must n mustn't do.
you have not harm them u hv give them the best...what more cld u ask for?
stress level ni pergi workout waktu lunch.no other thing..
all the pent up energy yg negative will burnt out @gym n you feel healthy. by the time balik rumah your energy level dahequillibrium and not so over charged.
after a while u have been working out@gym, balik rumah tak rasa penat sgt sebb yr stamina n energy balance.@beginning start 1/2hr work out ...gradually add within 1 month..and consistent at 1 hr 3 days week religiously. you'll be amaze to see the result..
if anytg happened @ work after lunch time esp after workout 45 min/ 1 hr kat gym, u will not feel over drive n over pent up with anger. coz you have trashed the negative and over charge energy build up earlier on the threadmill etc.
good luck..
addendum:
kalau dah seminggu nak datang tu kalu sentiasa kena cramp, makan le benda yg berempah dan buatlah ginger tea. tak pun get ginger capsule everyday...sure cramp will go away n less stress n paain n misery..
buat tau.. good esp hujung bulan punya hal
rgds
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