Fun Learning Session

Sesuatu yang aku dapat masa FLS dengan my section mate dari pagi tadi. Ada 4 kategori perlakuan/perwatakan manusia secara am nya. After completed the test I was in POWERFUL (Leader) category. There’s a strengths and weakness in this category. Secara theory aku rasa kenapa aku quite keen and match with my hubby because he definitely kalau ambik test ni akan fall in PEACEFUL category.
Dan dua kategori lain are POPULAR and PERFECTIONIST. Which are matching each other. I do raise a question to my boss. How to handle or overcome the situation if both of you fall in the same category. Dan my boss answer was “banyak beralah” bukan mengalah. Actually aku just nak tahu pendapat boss aje walaupun aku tahu his answer will be the same as mine.

Kat bawah ni aku senaraikan serba sedikit kelemahan dan kekuatan yang aku rasa amat berkait rapat dengan kami berdua.

Strengths in POWERFUL category (can consider as my strengths)

Adventures (definitely lah bagi yang kenal siapa diriku ini) , persuasive(tapi buat MLM tak pernah yang berjaya), strong –willed, competitive, self reliant (memang seorang yang sangat berdikari-can survive dalam apa jua keadaan sekalipun), positive, sure, forceful, daring, confident, independent, decisive, tenacious(sgt tabah), bold, leader, chief.

Strengths in PEACEFUL category (can consider as hubby strengths)

Peaceful (tak pernah lagi jumpa orang yang lebih tenang dari hubby), controlled, reserved (berat mulut – trade mark), patient, shy, obliging (selalu kena puji ngan aku sebab baik hati tolong buat kerja), diplomatic, consistent, inoffensive, dry humor (tidak suka kepada lawak dan tak suka buat lawak), contented (kalau time marah – muka still nampak bahagia aje), balanced (Memang seorang yang fikiran sangat stabil dan tak reti melenting)

My Weakness

Bossy (trade mark), Frank, Proud, domineering (hubby knows this better), Manipulative, stubborn (hubby lebih lagi), lord over others, short tempered (trade mark), rash.

Hunny weakness

Blank (selalu sangat jadi – kita cakap tapi dia dah merewang fikir kemana-mana), unenthusiastic, reticent (lebih redha berdiam diri), uninvolved, plain, hesitant (tak reti nak firm in making decision), nonchalant (sikap tak acuh very obvious), indifferent (suka tak ambil kisah – last minit baru terhegeh2 nak buat semua benda)

Cerita sebaliknya bukan macam tu. Mula-mula nak cari keserasian with hubby was a very tough time for me(hunny jenis keras kepala sikit – aku plak jenis bossy). First year was ok everything was in honeymoon mood (masa ni masing-masing cuba nak menjaga hati konon – pirahhh). Come to second year there was a big disaster happened but alhamdulillah I managed to handle everything without involving any third party. For me the key player to maintain our relationship is definitely me (aku memang decision maker pun sampai sekarang). I’m the one who has to make the right decision for my futute and myself. Lelaki ni senang aje, sorry to say but man diorang ni bukannya fragile mcm kita. Diorang kalau kita dah buat decision tu ingat diorang care ke nak ambik pusing lagi-lagi bila tengah gaduh atau perang besar. They will leave us terkonteng-konteng (diorang for sure malas nak fikir buat sakit kepala aje) . Itu yang aku belajar.

I think kebanyakan orang berkahwin akan lalui this transition period yang amat memedihkan. But lucky me because I was born with those kind of characters such as self reliant and tenacious dan tahap kesabaran aku dalam disaster period tu memang melebihi dari jangkauan akal fikiran. Not as easy as reading this entry. Dan alhamdulillah berjaya dah belayar dengan hubby sehingga hari ini dengan bahagianya (4 years – walaupun agak baru tapi dah boleh dibanggakan). The word happy is very important. Ada juga orang yang berkahwin tapi tak bahagia. So korang nilai-nilaikan diri masing-masing. Bahagia hari ini tak semestinya akan bahagia selama-lamanya but bare in mind we decide want we wanted to be. If you plan to be a happy wife then go for it. But if you fail, be ready. Tak boleh nak harap kaum adam ni 100%

Berdoalah hari-hari semoga ALLAH memberi petunjuk, melembutkan hati kita dan pasangan serta memberi kebahagian kepada kita dan pasangan dunia dan akhirat. Hunny you complete me. Thank you very much.