Article of the day - the star 25 August 2004

Blogging can hurt

BLOGGING seems to be the "in" thing right now. It's like an open diary. Everybody can read your thoughts and feelings and opinions, although the readers mainly comprise friends. And thatÂ’s where I have questions. Like a diary, blogging chronicles your life what happened that day, whom you met, etc. You recount the happy moments but there are definitely ranting sessions about something that bothered you, a bad day or an irritating friend. The blog becomes a punching bag for you to vent your frustrations about your friend. And what about the irritating friend? He gets judged without others hearing his side of the story. He gets humiliated because everybody knows what he did. This is just a scenario but I bet many people are victims of playing the unwanted role in their friend's blogging drama.

Obviously, the general opinion is that it's a big no-no to publish one's personal matters for public viewing. It's an even bigger no-no when most of the people who read your blog are your friends because they probably know who you're talking about in your blog. You may allow your goings-on to be public knowledge but it may
hurt your friends and family if you were to talk about them in your blog, especially during the ranting sessions. It is even worse if they were to find out by visiting your blog. On the other hand, some people are of the opinion that the blogger has every right to publish what he wishes. The blog belongs to you; therefore you can write whatever you want. If the reader doesnÂ’t like what he reads, he can leave the site. The blogger should have the right to post whatever he likes in his blog
without having anyone judging what/who is right or wrong. Some suggest that the blogger change the names of the people he is writing for anonymity. E R M S P A O L S A T Y A S G I A E

As I said earlier, the readers (friends) can easily deduce who you're talking about through your description of the person in your blog. In my opinion, freedom of speech is important. Blogging is great for people who want readers to read their opinions and views on matters. However, bloggers who blog about their life risk hurting themselves, not to mention their loved ones. If I have a blog, I'd definitely think twice about publishing private matters that involve people closest to me. I don't want to hurt anyone just to vent my passing frustration. Are there
any bloggers who want to tell their side of the story?

Komen mama...
Setuju 100% sebab ada juga penulis blog yang jahat dan busuk hati sebab suka menulis kisah dia sakit hati la..dia benci orang itu lah dia bagus sangat la, mencaci dan mencerca orang lain dlm blog dia - actually walaupun kita tak fully mentioned siapa orang yang kita katakan but still itu mengumpat dan dapat dosa kan... Somehow readers tak kenal hati budi penulis tu then definitely dengar cerita dari sebelah pihak dan berlaku tidak adil pada orang yang diperkatakan that is unfair rite. Kadang2 readers tend to give comment sebab rasa kesian pada penulis dan selalu menyebelah pihak penulis tanpa tahu hujung pangkal cerita.. Wallahualam..apa-apa pun blog ni pun boleh jadi sebab musabab kita tambah dosa tak semena-mena kan. Sharing is good tapi kalau nak share keburukan orang lain tu rasanya baiklah hentikan sahaja. At the end it's not benefit pada kita even pada orang lain.

Pendapat mama kalau kita nak tulis blog ni kenalah jujur dan ikhlas. Ada penulis yang hanya tulis tentang kebaikan diri dia sahaja which is good untuk halwa mata pembaca. Dia baik di dalam blog but secara realitynya dia tak begitu...rasa menyampah juga bila baca blog kawan yang kita kenal perangai dia mcm mana but apa yang dia tulis dlm blog tu definitely differ dari apa yang kita kenal dia just to "show off" pada pembaca. Readers memang tak bother pun apa yang kita nak tulis even they don't know benda yang kita tulis tu benar atau rekaan semata-mata untuk sekadar menyedapkan cerita. Tulis lah kisah sebenar jangan menokok tambah dan mengada-ngadakan cerita sekadar untuk melihatkan kita tu bagus, hebat dan sebagainya tapi pada zahirnya itu semua adalah lakonan dan hipokrit kita semata-mata. Orang tak tahu dan tak ambil tahu kisah hidup kita but apa akan jadi bila suatu hari secara tak sengaja kawan yang kita dok buruk-burukkan dalam blog kita terjumpa coretan kita itu. Puhhh it's really hurt you know...tapi ALLAH tu lebih mengetahui niat dan tujuan kita. Nak dapat pahala bukan susah pun kalau nawaitu baik InsyaALLAH boleh dapat pahala tapi nak tambah dosa pun mudah dengan mengaibkan kawan2 kat blog ni pun senang2 aje malaikat menambah bilangan dosa kita. Mama dah tulis jenel ni sejak tahun 1998 lagi dah lama sungguh berkecimupung dalam dairy maya ni...dulu mama berhenti seketika atas sebab2 tertentu. Cuma lately ni mama kembali menulis untuk tatapan sendiri sebab terasa banyak sangat cerita hidup yang boleh dijadikan pengalaman dan ikhtibar bersama..yang baik kita jadikan tauladan yang buruk kita jadikan sempadan bersamaa

Jangan sentiasa berprasangka buruk pada orang lain sebab prasangka buruk tu adalah penyakit hati yang paling sukar diubati. Mama ni pesan pada diri sendiri juga.

lot of luv
mama